What a Guy Wants
I've had a request from some of my college girls regarding our college guys -
"We want to know what they think about regarding the future? What is it they are looking for in a wife? How do they process conflict, anger, or decide if they're in love? or even want to be? What do they fear? etc. ... So can we have a forum type setting with a couple of you adults as "moderators" and just have a round-table discussion where we can ask each other questions that we are curious about (with discretion of course)?
Well, honestly, my first thought was this is a sure way to get a guy to renounce his faith and leave the church just so he wont qualify to be invited to this "forum". My other thought was how many times I have heard young women want to know these very things and try to figure out an effective way to get the answers. Here's how it often goes:
"What are you feeling?" reply: "...about what?"
"Why won't you talk?" "...talk about what?"
"What do feel passionate about?" "...duck season opens this saturday."
"Can't you answer a serious question?" "...can you talk to me without asking one?"
And so the cycle begins. I LOVE IT ALL!! I love that girls want to know the heart of guys and are continuously trying to figure out how to get the answers. You've read "Wild at Heart", "He's Not that Into You", "Men are from Mars...", "How to Kill a Deer With Your Bare Hands"....
I love that guys have answers to all of our questions, they just don't want to tell them to just anybody on command. But when we do hear the answer, we remember it forever.
So if there is a question you want to ask - or answer you would like to give - I would sure love to hear it. The College Ministry @ Calvary Baptist Church will be a better, wiser place because of your input I have no doubt.
Otherwise, I'm thinking of a way to get the guys at a discussion table... ready to answer questions...that girls want to ask. AND they are hoping the guys have some questions too, because YOU KNOW the girls have been ready to answer questions since they were 12! I'm thinking....
What: Fun Discussion with Girls and Guys
When: 6:30 AM
Where: 3rd duck blind on the lake, next to the All You Can Eat Steakhouse
Here's to the life and love of those precious Men and Women that have come into my life like confetti in a ticker-tape parade - falling all around me in various shapes, sizes and colors, always fun and exciting, then they land and make this beautiful tapestry path that I will forever look back on and smile.
posted by knelson at 5:52 AM
26 Comments:
Mrs. Kathy!! I'm so pumped you started a blog!! I just wanted to be the first to say welcome!!! :) Your page looks great!!
Mrs. Kathy - how resfreshing to hear that those college students are where we were so MANY years ago...and how exciting it is to know you are still right there in the midst - loving them through those seemingly impossible times! thanks for all you do!
...and if the girls are serious about answers, I think the third duck blind is the ONLY place they'll get the guys' honest answers - and tell them there are some things that never change!!!
someone just gave me book for my birthday called "for women only: what you need to know about the inner lives of men" by shaunti feldhahn. it is a really easy read & she did a lot of research to come up with 7 things we need to understand about men. obviously not every man fits every revelation, but it is very revealing. a good read whether your married or single.
Mrs. Kathy! You have a blog; you are so cool! lol!! I LOVE YOU!!!
Just wanted to say i really liked the book Megan is talking about. I read it a while back and it was insightful about a few things!
Moment of silence please...Mrs. Kathy has spoken! :) Mrs. Kathy--I am SO glad you are blogging!! Now we can get the wise words from you even though we don't live close! hehe! Speak on, sister!! We are ALL reading with open eyes, ears and hearts!!!
mrs kathy...welcome...i ask you what does a girl want??? good to have you here...and im not sure what i want, so i'm not much help here.
MRS. KATHY!!! How wonderful it is to hear the wise Kathy Nelson! I miss you tons and know that I need to get back to Calvary soon to visit!
Amy Scharf
The circle is complete, Mrs. Kathy has joined the blogging world! With Mrs Elly and Mrs. Kathy's thoughts to read when we want, we may never have problems again. How blessed we are!
ditto on amy's comment!! and also - most of would not have made it (with a sane mind) through our college relationships without mrs. kathy and elly!
Mrs. Kathy,
So great to read some of your thoughts on that stuff....and to be able to catch up with you online.....hope all is well in Ruston. Take care....
Sheralyn Smith
soo excited that you have a blog now! we can get our mrs. kathy fix anytime we need! now for the question. probably not the expert on this as i am still single. but i agree with the girl who said to be yourself and be who God made you to be. if you change for any reason other than God's conviction and His Spirit working in your life, it's just not gonna last. so become what God wants and that will be exactly what the guy he has for you wants. and it really doesn't matter what any other guy wants.
Oh how I've missed the wise words of Mrs. Kathy!! I"m so glad that you've joined in on the blogging world. I'll be visiting daily!
There's been some good thoughts so far. I'll just throw in some of my own. When I was a little kid, we always played games where we saved the day. We would be spies and our girlfriends were kidnapped and we'd have to break in and rescue them and of course we'd get there just in the nick of time. And this was long before I started watching this thing on TV. So the point is most guys want to know that they've got what it takes, that someone believes in them and in their crazy ideas. Deep down, most of us want to be the hero, we want to come through when needed and we want to have the courage to fight for whats important. Hopefully that translates into the spiritual life and hopefully we find somebody who'll encourage, respect, and believe in us. If so, thats huge, it means the world. Thats my thoughts on what most guys want deep down. Someone to go on their adventure with, but first someone to believe that this guy can take them on an adventure.
Thanks for the post Mrs. Kathy. I miss you.
Jason
Yay! Glad to see you have a blog. I want to also recommend the book Megan and Ashley recommended...It explains a lot!
I'll sit on a board and answer questions. Which lake is the duck blind on?
Woohoo- Mrs. Kathy has spoken- I am so excited to add you to my link list- I will check your site daily for wise advice!!!
SO happy to see that you're blogging Mrs. Kathy! You are truly the sweetest person I've ever met, and it's so nice to "hear" your words of wisdom again!
Christy Shirley White
is your emaill still cox-internet?
I stand amazed at your wisdom. Sure wish each of you could be right here when we have this open forum.
You ALL are why I still love College Ministry!
Elly - it is now...@cox.net. Write soon, can't wait to hear from you.
Ashley and I have been talking about how it was only a matter of time before they pulled you into this too. We should have had a pool on how long it was going to take. I'm looking forward to reading.
Hey Austin -
Well - I hope you would have won lots of money! I'm hoping this will be a great adventure. Congrats to you both!
What a fun couple! :)
Kathy- click on the blogger icon in the upper left corner log in with your name and password you will hen be at the "dashboard" click on "blogger help" on the right side then you will see a question "how do I change my link list" it explains how - if you want to put someone's link on your site you just copy their link address then past it in your "template" where those instructions tell you - does this make sense? Clear as mud? Love ya! I have sent you an email about 5 times now, please let me know if you get it. You can also put your email address in your profile if you like.
Kathy - PS - Shortcut - click on that "edit-me" on the right side of your blog and it will take you right there to the instructions!!
Larah, They are a wonderful group - you fit in perfectly!
Can't wait to see ya'll tonite!! woo hoo!
Yay...Wisdom from Mrs. Kathy. I had forgotten how fun and real your wisdom is!
Jenny Ortis
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